Question :
I care for an elderly parent who has Alzheimer's disease. She is stubborn and does not co-operate with me, but those who stay with her when I am at work say she is sweet. She knows my voice, so I think she resents me taking charge. Please Help!
Answer :
You may be very right. I have heard often that the home care aide has better luck getting the patient to do something than the spouse or children. It may be due to the fact that the aide is seen as an objective professional who needs to be obeyed. The role reversal that occurs when the children must become like the parent, is difficult for the person to accept. They were always independent and made their own decision. Be patient. If you find that your parent is more cooperative about doing certain things for the aide, then go ahead and assign them to the aide. Sometimes this can be a blessing in disguise.

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